How Personal Values Help Guide Us

How Personal Values Help Guide Us

It can be so hard to know which bridge to cross sometimes! Life may feel just “off” somehow. Our schedule can seem like it belongs to someone else because it just doesn’t fit us any longer. Our habits can create patterns in life we don’t like. Sometimes we just feel really lost, not knowing which way to go! It can seem almost impossible to re-direct a life that feels so out of line…so “not us”…so confusing. What can be done once life is like this? We don’t often talk about our values with other people. It just isn’t something we are taught or encouraged to do, but our personal values help guide us in life. They are one of the best guides we could ever use!

So what are personal values?

Our personal values are the concepts we each hold highly important and deem necessary in order to have a fulfilling and satisfying life. In our life and work they are the concepts that we personally find most important. We are often willing to make sacrifices of other less important aspects in life to ensure that what we value most exists around us.

Our values help us live “the good life”. They give us more clarity for how to make life feel more authentic, satisfying and fulfilling! Without them we would feel as if something is missing or being overlooked. Without identified personal values we can feel lost and confused, easily swayed by the values of those around us individually or collectively. Values guide our actions, words, behaviors and choices.

Values are a core part of our self and our identity. Because they are so intricate to who we are, they are also great conversation starters with other people. You can create powerful relationships with people who know or share your values.

While the notion of values may bring up similar concepts such as priorities, spiritual beliefs, purpose or culture, they are not all the same. There are similarities and distinctions between all of these concepts, which I’ll save for another post.

You may also be thinking about the idea of personal intrinsic value right now. It is important to note that a personal value is entirely distinct from a person’s intrinsic value. We are all valuable. Our worth is intrinsic; we are valuable just because we exist! Continue reading “How Personal Values Help Guide Us”

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The Immediate ROI of One Woman’s Purchase with Purpose

In late September I was exposed to something new…something I’d never really seen before and in a short time one investment has drastically changed the way I do a variety of my business and writing activities. I expected a positive impact from this purchase made with a lot of purpose, but I have been blown away by several immediate benefits of creating a better writing space for myself.

I’ve known for years that sitting still for hours while working is bad for my body and that an exercise ball can be used as an alternative to the classic desk chair. I have a ball like this at home, and I’ve wanted to try it at my desk, but I’d never found a good way to make it stable or tall enough to use as a desk chair.

Through my work with Partners in Diversity, I was recently introduced to ergonomic furniture and Fully, a Partners in Diversity member and retailer of “desks, chairs and things to keep you moving” in downtown Portland. They had my answer for better seating! They also introduced me to sit stand desks, which I’d definitely never experienced before meeting the Fully team. I really wanted to know more about their products so I accepted their invitation to write for a few hours at one of their showroom workstations. I was there for about 2 hours earlier this fall and was instantly hooked!

So what made the draw so strong?

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How to Know What You Want or Need…Beforehand!

A lot of important decisions are hard to make in the moment and so we get slowed down trying to decide what we want.  Indecision often is just a bad decision that wastes time, and can ultimately lead to lost opportunities or meandering through life. We live in a busy world so it can be hard to fit in everything we want to do…let alone contemplate life at a deeper more intentional level. Sadly, this powerful type of thinking, which lets us cultivate personal leadership habits, rarely makes it to the top of the to-do list.

But this kind of personal reflection is exactly what we need in order to have any chance of knowing in advance what we want or need…and seeing it come to life!

Below are 5 of my favorite life patterns and personal leadership habits. They are tried and true habits that will help you find the time for some powerful personal thinking. These habits will help you know what you want or need BEFORE the big decision comes. They’ll give you insight. They’ll help you create more Life-Clarity. I know this because I’ve used these tools and taught them to countless others in my coaching and leadership development work over the last two decades. I’ve seen these habits drastically change lives! Continue reading “How to Know What You Want or Need…Beforehand!”

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To Abort or Charge Ahead When Second-Guessing: 7 lessons from quickly quitting my first job

Recently I was asked by a past client my thoughts on how to deal with second-guessing after deciding to take steps towards a major transition. He asked what might be some ways to dispassionately consider aborting or charging ahead.

I think many of us have experienced that moment of doubt after making a tough or major decision. It is such a tough place to be! You just put in all that effort to decide, took the leap to declare a decision and now you feel like back-peddling! Buyer’s remorse is creeping in and you really aren’t sure what to do! Do you keep moving forward down your new path or do your bail and abort on your new plans? If you resonate with this horrible situation, please keep reading. I promise to be helpful!

While thinking about how to answer my client’s question, one memory from 14 years ago kept coming to my mind. I debated about sharing it because it was a very intense life experience for me. It really illustrates the topic though so I hope you don’t mind hearing a little bit of my personal story.

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Life-Clarity Introduced

I’ve made a lot of decisions in my life: big ones, small ones, important ones, not really important ones. We all have. Sometimes the decisions we face in life are easy. Sometimes they are really hard. The hard ones can be confusing, messy, way too complex, and scary. The easy ones…well they are just fun!

I long to help people in very practical ways and that is why I studied psychology, counseling and coaching. I found myself always wanting to help people make their important life decisions. What could be more practical than that? I didn’t want to tell them what to do, but help them decide for themselves what would be best for them.

As I coached people over the years, I noticed that sometimes life suddenly would start to click for my clients! When they started their coaching, they were confused over some area of their life and not sure what to do next. They needed change, but didn’t how to make it happen, or even what specifically they wanted to change. Continue reading “Life-Clarity Introduced”

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4 Ways to Live More Intentionally

It was pretty easy for my husband and I to decide a few months ago that we wanted to move out of our apartment and buy our first home. Not every decision in life will be that easy, and we know it! For us the financial, time and lifestyle benefits were obvious. We knew this choice would take our life in the direction we wanted to head. It was a very intentional choice for us.

When we made the decision we weren’t exactly sure how the home buying process would go. We also didn’t know how long it would take us. What we did know was that the choice to move felt very right. We were comfortable with our decision and excited for the possible future that laid before us.

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