How Personal Values Help Guide Us

How Personal Values Help Guide Us

It can be so hard to know which bridge to cross sometimes! Life may feel just “off” somehow. Our schedule can seem like it belongs to someone else because it just doesn’t fit us any longer. Our habits can create patterns in life we don’t like. Sometimes we just feel really lost, not knowing which way to go! It can seem almost impossible to re-direct a life that feels so out of line…so “not us”…so confusing. What can be done once life is like this? We don’t often talk about our values with other people. It just isn’t something we are taught or encouraged to do, but our personal values help guide us in life. They are one of the best guides we could ever use!

So what are personal values?

Our personal values are the concepts we each hold highly important and deem necessary in order to have a fulfilling and satisfying life. In our life and work they are the concepts that we personally find most important. We are often willing to make sacrifices of other less important aspects in life to ensure that what we value most exists around us.

Our values help us live “the good life”. They give us more clarity for how to make life feel more authentic, satisfying and fulfilling! Without them we would feel as if something is missing or being overlooked. Without identified personal values we can feel lost and confused, easily swayed by the values of those around us individually or collectively. Values guide our actions, words, behaviors and choices.

Values are a core part of our self and our identity. Because they are so intricate to who we are, they are also great conversation starters with other people. You can create powerful relationships with people who know or share your values.

While the notion of values may bring up similar concepts such as priorities, spiritual beliefs, purpose or culture, they are not all the same. There are similarities and distinctions between all of these concepts, which I’ll save for another post.

You may also be thinking about the idea of personal intrinsic value right now. It is important to note that a personal value is entirely distinct from a person’s intrinsic value. We are all valuable. Our worth is intrinsic; we are valuable just because we exist! Continue reading “How Personal Values Help Guide Us”

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The Immediate ROI of One Woman’s Purchase with Purpose

In late September I was exposed to something new…something I’d never really seen before and in a short time one investment has drastically changed the way I do a variety of my business and writing activities. I expected a positive impact from this purchase made with a lot of purpose, but I have been blown away by several immediate benefits of creating a better writing space for myself.

I’ve known for years that sitting still for hours while working is bad for my body and that an exercise ball can be used as an alternative to the classic desk chair. I have a ball like this at home, and I’ve wanted to try it at my desk, but I’d never found a good way to make it stable or tall enough to use as a desk chair.

Through my work with Partners in Diversity, I was recently introduced to ergonomic furniture and Fully, a Partners in Diversity member and retailer of “desks, chairs and things to keep you moving” in downtown Portland. They had my answer for better seating! They also introduced me to sit stand desks, which I’d definitely never experienced before meeting the Fully team. I really wanted to know more about their products so I accepted their invitation to write for a few hours at one of their showroom workstations. I was there for about 2 hours earlier this fall and was instantly hooked!

So what made the draw so strong?

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3 Powerful Life Management Solutions

3 Powerful Life Management Solutions For the Stressed Out & Time-Strapped Woman

Much of the stress we experience is self-imposed and created by the patterns we establish in our daily lives. For many women, feeling stressed out and time-strapped sucks all the energy out of us. It really isn’t an ideal way to live. But ladies, life doesn’t have to be that way!

Life management habits play a big part in how stressed out and overly busy we feel on any given day. Thankfully, there is a lot we can do to keep our schedule in control and with a manageable amount of stress. I say manageable because – let’s be honest – some stress and pressure is a good thing because it moves us into action. But too much wreaks havoc on our bodies, minds and souls!

Unfortunately, I spent a lot of my 20s stressed out and time-strapped; always trying to do more of what I love…and do it better. Now don’t get me wrong – goals are fantastic drivers for living a life of success, intentionality and purpose. I’m all about that! But without the following three life management solutions, that drive for success, accomplishment and enjoyment will most likely be our ruin in the end.  Diligently applying the following life management solutions really transformed my way of life. I continue to apply these concepts to keep myself at a good stress level and make sure my schedule revolves around my priorities and joys. The list is a little long, but it is worth the read!

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Where to Start When Setting Goals

How to Know What You Want or Need…Beforehand!

A lot of important decisions are hard to make in the moment and so we get slowed down trying to decide what we want.  Indecision often is just a bad decision that wastes time, and can ultimately lead to lost opportunities or meandering through life. We live in a busy world so it can be hard to fit in everything we want to do…let alone contemplate life at a deeper more intentional level. Sadly, this powerful type of thinking, which lets us cultivate personal leadership habits, rarely makes it to the top of the to-do list.

But this kind of personal reflection is exactly what we need in order to have any chance of knowing in advance what we want or need…and seeing it come to life!

Below are 5 of my favorite life patterns and personal leadership habits. They are tried and true habits that will help you find the time for some powerful personal thinking. These habits will help you know what you want or need BEFORE the big decision comes. They’ll give you insight. They’ll help you create more Life-Clarity. I know this because I’ve used these tools and taught them to countless others in my coaching and leadership development work over the last two decades. I’ve seen these habits drastically change lives! Continue reading “How to Know What You Want or Need…Beforehand!”

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Developing a Powerful Habit of Self-Coaching

Self-coaching is a powerful habit of self-exploration and intentional living that anyone can develop! I love to teach my clients basic self-coaching skills and have done so for years! Self-coaching is a growing concept and I’ve started hearing a few other coaches talk about it as well. Join us in this easy-to-form habit and start creating more Life-Clarity in just 20-45 minutes a week!

With any new habit there is a little bit of basic set up or preparation to get you ready for success. The prep work to set up a new self-couching routine isn’t hard but it is important. Let’s start with that then dive into the process I teach my clients that allows them to continue their powerful self-work after our formal sessions end. This is a quick and easy way to invest in your growth right away while learning a little about coaching.

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Where to Start When Setting Goals

“Unscrew Your Fear”: Choosing to Live Life Unafraid!

Big changes can often bring about fear. A new step in life creates uncertainly around how the next step will go and how things will unfold. Consider the big changes that are happening in the US government right now as an example. Facebook and twitter are filled with people expressing fears over what the next few years (or even months) will bring now that America has new leadership. How will Trump change the face of politics and what we know as normal in America? Is that wall really going to be built and will we have a major fallout with our neighbor to the south, many wonder? Is our government really going to keep people from the 7 countries listed in this week’s executive order out of the US short term or indefinitely?

But this post isn’t about politics; it is about living life unafraid…because we never know what the future will bring. Administrations change. Unexpected natural disasters will come. People will make choices we don’t like…and we can’t undo.

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Where to Start When Setting Goals

Ultimate New Year’s Resolutions

I know many people feel motivated to do improve their life when a new year roles around. Many people make resolutions but unfortunately not that many people really succeed at keeping their resolutions.

I want people to live the best version of their life possible, but that simply isn't possible when we use underdeveloped and mediocre approaches to goal setting and creating true lasting change. This year I wanted to create a self-coaching tool that would help people create better resolutions, ones that are motivating and feasible! This is just one more way you can live more intentionally in 2017.

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Where to Start When Setting Goals

Life-Clarity Introduced

I’ve made a lot of decisions in my life: big ones, small ones, important ones, not really important ones. We all have. Sometimes the decisions we face in life are easy. Sometimes they are really hard. The hard ones can be confusing, messy, way too complex, and scary. The easy ones…well they are just fun!

I long to help people in very practical ways and that is why I studied psychology, counseling and coaching. I found myself always wanting to help people make their important life decisions. What could be more practical than that? I didn’t want to tell them what to do, but help them decide for themselves what would be best for them.

As I coached people over the years, I noticed that sometimes life suddenly would start to click for my clients! When they started their coaching, they were confused over some area of their life and not sure what to do next. They needed change, but didn’t how to make it happen, or even what specifically they wanted to change. Continue reading “Life-Clarity Introduced”